So Long, Sucka. I’m Going to Sleep!

Two words: Yolanda Adams. I debated whether I should post this video, or even write about this, but it’s 2:53 a.m. and the devil’s got me by the throat. The only way to get him to give up his grip on my gullet is to pry him off, and this is the only way I know how to do it.

I actually got the idea to write this Sunday morning, but I cowered. I chickened out. I thought: If I write this, people will pummel me. They’ll come after me with blazing bullets because I’m so filthy. “You hypocrite!” they’ll say. And I let the damn devil get me. Again.

It’s already started, hasn’t it. <– Deliberate period, there, for you grammar gurus. You’re saying, “See, Melissa? You couldn’t even take a breath before you cussed.”

Well, wannabe saints and disparaging sinners, I have news for you: I’m filthy and I know it. And I know you are, too. You holier-than-thou types don’t fool me. Trust me. Takes one to know one, right?

I didn’t go to church this week. I didn’t know where to go. I’ve attended many different churches in the area, but none of them matched my mood. I needed a breakthrough kind of service. I needed to not be disappointed with the praise music. I needed to not grow impatient waiting on an original, captivating but genuine-hearted delivery of a message. I needed to not be judgmental of a puffed-chest pastor pleading for my 10 percent and above that I owed him God.

So I watched church on TV. I’ve heard the phrase “bedside Baptist” used before to describe people doing this. How original. What message did I receive? Yep. “You should be in a church right now and not watching me on TV.”


Then, Pastor Shirley Caesar appeared on BET’s Lift Every Voice. She looked into the camera and spoke directly to Melissa: “Make it to somebody’s church whose leaders are living holy.”


See, I’m not the type to be a prim and proper, come-to-church-just-for-appearances spectator. I’m not a benchwarmer. I don’t half-listen to a message. I’m going to challenge, at least mentally, every word being spoken. And I’m going to challenge your living those words coming out of your mouth. I’m really not a hypocrite. It’s hard enough for me to even walk through the doors of a sanctuary right now. Don’t waste my time. I go to church for reality. Be real.

But I’m trying. I’m putting forth the effort. I’m waging war against this broken spirit inside me. Just like I’m waging war against the devil at my throat. But the devil won’t win this time. Not twice within 24 hours.

This is the first song I ever danced to in church. This is the song that stifles my too-stubborn Melissa. Sing, Yolanda …

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  1. I pray that God showers you with the peace you need during this time. Stay encouraged and know that God is there even when we don’t feel like he is. I hope you find a church soon that is able to give you the peace and inspiration you need.

      1. Oh, and I hate I missed the E. Lynn Harris giveaway. I’m anxious to read “In My Father’s House.”

        Please, please, please let the next two be released.

        I love your reviews. I’ll be starting some soon.

  2. I can relate to this as it is so hard to find a church that is right in these days. I am really starting take the fact that we are living in the last days seriously. It is disheartening when you have to go from church to church just to find a House of the Lord that is right. It is exhausting and can leave you wanting to throw your hands up and say forget it. Trust me, I know. Nevertheless as the song goes. There is no pain Jesus can’t heal and the battle is the Lord’s. You just made me want to go and put that on. I think that I will. Anyhow, stay encourage girl, and I will try too as well. I will keep you in my prayers! Peace, Love, and Blessings! 🙂

    1. Hi Autumn!
      Thank you again for your support. My hope is that people don’t misunderstand what I say. I’m not angry at God; I’m concerned about what people have done with His house.

      As critical as I can be, I’m not mad at any churches. My frustrations and questions come from within. But we do have an obligation to question the workings of such a holy institution, right?

      Stay strong. Fight the good fight. But know that the battle isn’t ours.